Two roads diverged into a wood...

Sometimes I really don't understand people, and I certainly don't understand why they do the things they do. But I think that for the most part, that's how most of society wants things to be. I mean, let's face it...a person is chased after more when there's a certain sense of mystery about them. When you know everything about a person up-front, it takes all the fun out of getting to know them...but still. Having some basic knowledge of a person would really make it easier to understand why they act the way they act, i.e. do the things they do.

For example, a friend of mine recently made the decision that she couldn't be a girlfriend and friend at the same time. I guess I should call her my former friend then, huh? Anyway. Out of our entire group of friends, I never would have thought that this girl in particular would sell all of us out...especially for a guy. I mean, when it comes down to it, it's never a question of having to choose between your boyfriend and your friends. You make concessions. True, it makes it a lot harder to be in a relationship with someone if your friends don't like him, but your true friends would never turn their back on you just because you're dating someone they disapprove of. They may not support the relationship, but they do support you. And let's face it, when you never introduce your friends to your boyfriend (a five minute run-in does not count as meeting!), it causes things to be strained. I, for one, want my friends to meet whomever it is I happen to be dating.

So, this former friend of mine has basically thrown the friendship of a very tightly knit group of girls out the window...all for some guy that she barely ever sees but thinks she loves. Ok, so that was a little mean. She may, in fact, love him. Who am I to judge...but love is based off of a relationship, and I don't understand how the two of them have a relationship when they never see each other. Yes, long-distance relationships can work...if the couple has a past they can base it on. But long-distance relationships are almost always destined to fail if the relationship is long-distance from the get-go...and I know this from experience.

I'm not knocking her relationship with this guy. In fact, I wish her all the happiness in the world, and as long as she's happy then I'm happy for her. I guess all I'm trying to say is that I don't understand what's happened to her. She's changed so much since last year...and while some of the changes aren't bad, overall when you add them all together she hasn't changed for the better. I'll always love her and don't want anything bad to happen to her...I just don't understand how she could just walk out of our friendship so easily.